5 tactics that may help keep you going
With the possible exception of size, stamina is probably the biggest concern men have about sex. Often used as a cheap joke in movies and TV shows, for many men this isn’t a laughing matter. And if you are unhappy with the amount of time you spend between the sheets, here are some things you can try:
Take more time honing your skills alone
For most guys, masturbation is about getting off as quickly as possible. And while pleasurable in the short-run, this can put a damper on the intimate time spent with a partner. But with consistent masturbation, men can actually retrain themselves to last longer.
“The more men masturbate, the more control they can get over the timing of their ejaculation,” says Dr. Kat Van Kirk.
There’s another benefit to getting more alone time, Dr. Van Kirk says: “If you aren’t masturbating on a regular basis and you seem to be ‘saving it up’, it is more likely that you will ejaculate sooner than you or your partner might like.”
Be careful what you eat
In many instances, what we eat can affect how we operate, and this includes sex. If stamina has been an issue lately, it could be time to take a close look at what you’re eating. Too much soy, dairy products, and alcohol could be bad for your sex life. But there are some delicious foods that could help you improve performance, including watermelon, wild salmon, garlic, bananas, and dark chocolate.
Talk to your partner
Because men often feel inadequate if they don’t have a lot of sexual stamina, this can affect their confidence and relationship with their partner. This is why communication is important. Talking about things and bringing them out in the open can immediately make everyone feel better. And when both people work to address the issue, this can strengthen their bond, and not just sexually. Dr. Van Kirk says men should see this “as an opportunity to build emotional intimacy with your partner and broaden your sexual repertoire.”
Having an honest discussion with a partner may also reveal something else: That there isn’t much to worry about after all. Men may be pleasantly surprised to find out that their partner is perfectly happy with the length of their bedroom sessions.
Figure out what’s causing you to be stressed or depressed
While men certainly rely on their body when it comes to sex, the brain can’t be overlooked. And when the mind isn’t right, this can have an impact on everything. For example, stress and depression are often linked to erectile dysfunction, and they can also hinder stamina.
“You can have someone who’s physically fit but if they’re depressed, they have no stamina whatsoever,” says clinical therapist Eric Marlowe Garrison.
There are numerous natural ways to help relieve stress and depression, and consulting a doctor for medication or other treatment options could also be a good step to take.
Get checked out physically
If all else fails, it is probably time to get examined by your doctor. It is possible that there is some underlying issue that’s causing the problem. You may end up being referred to a specialist who can offer the best recommendations.
In some instances, poor sexual performance could be due to inadequate blood flow to the penis, much of which can be caused by the plaque that builds up in blood vessels due to diet and/or age. Fortunately, there’s something men can do about this.
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