The Concerns Men in Their 30s Have About Sex

The Concerns Men in Their 30s Have about Sex

How men’s bodies – and lives – change

It may not be the most talked about subject, but sex is certainly something many of us think about frequently. We’re wondering how to get more of it, how to make it better, or how often other people are having it.

While there is some debate as to when a man reaches his sexual peak, there is no denying that sex and sexual feelings change as we get older. Things can start to be different for guys in their thirties, but that doesn’t mean these changes are negative. Here are the things 30-somethings are generally most concerned about:

Lower sex drive

One of the biggest issues many men face as they get into their 30s is a reduced sex drive, and this could be the result of numerous factors, including:

Reduced testosterone levels

Once men reach age 30, testosterone begins decreasing. According to the Mayo Clinic, levels go down about one percent each year after 30. However, lower testosterone doesn’t necessarily mean sex drive has to be affected, says Dr. Jason Hedges, a urologist at Oregon Health and Science University.

“Some say it’s just a part of aging, but that’s a misconception,” Hedges says. The decline is so gradual, for example, that lower testosterone may not play a huge role in diminished sex drive.


People with depression often stop having interest in their usual activities, and this includes sex. Certain antidepressants have also been linked to low libido or impaired sexual performance.

Lack of sleep

A study published in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism showed that men suffering from obstructive sleep apnea have lower levels of testosterone, which often results in decreased libido.


Stress can affect everything, including sex drive. Not only does stress have an impact on hormone levels, it could result in the narrowing of arteries. This restricts blood flow, which may lead to erectile dysfunction.

Erectile Dysfunction

Speaking of erectile dysfunction, this is another issue men in their 30s may eventually face. Despite what all those commercials might say, this isn’t something reserved exclusively for older men – it does happen more frequently as men get older, but it can happen at any age.

And often, there are many underlying factors that could cause it. These could be psychological or related to various health issues, including diabetes and obesity. Tobacco and alcohol use may also play a role. An unhealthy lifestyle can speed up the accumulation of plaque in blood vessels, resulting in diminished blood flow and sexual performance.

Not thinking about sex as much

This may seem like a negative, but it could actually be a good thing. In your late teens and maybe well into your 20s, you probably thought about sex a lot (but probably not every seven seconds, or whatever that old cliché is).

Now that you’ve matured, it may not be on you mind quite as much. By your 30s, it’s possible that you have other priorities, including a career, marriage, and children. This could be better for both you and your partner, says clinical psychologist Dr. Nikki Martinez.

“While things might not be as carefree as they once were in their relationship and sex life, when they are intimate, they savor the experience more,” she explains.

Regardless of any changes, men in their 30s should expect to have a healthy sex life for several more decades.

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